?  Bullying in the workplace has reached epidemic proportions. Unlike playground bullies who may resort to using their fists, workplace bullies generally use words and actions to intimidate their victims. A workplace bully may be your boss or your co-worker.
No one should ever make you feel uncomfortable at work.
?   Don’t allow the bully to intimidate you or make you feel bad about yourself. You know your true worth. Don’t forget what that is. Do your job and do it well. The workplace bully wants you to fail and when you don’t, he or she will be defeated.

Workplace Bullying Defined

The Workplace Bullying Institute (WBI) defines “workplace bullying” as “repeated, health-harming mistreatment of one or more persons (the targets) by one or more perpetrators that take one or more of the following forms”:

·                   Verbal abuse.

·                   Offensive conduct or behaviors, including nonverbal, that are threatening, humiliating or intimidating.

·                   Work interference—sabotage—that prevents work from getting done.

Among other things, this definition could encompass such actions as having work product criticized constantly, yelling, being reminded constantly of past mistakes, spreading rumors or lies and being avoided or excluded intentionally.

When evaluating complaints, it’s important to look at the big picture.  Repeated mistreatment is a key element of the WBI definition of workplace bullying. Bullying isn’t a one-time altercation. Rather, it is persistent harassment or abuse. Another key element of the definition is that the mistreatment must cause harm to the target’s health.  If you have an office bully on your hands, or are a victim of bullying, it’s important to discuss this with your office Human Resources office.  If you need further help to process and release negativity, you may call me for a complimentary consult.  I see individuals and small groups on Long Island, conduct video skype sessions and do onsite trainings and education.