If you ever find yourself saying this about behavior you see in your teen, follow up this phrase with a question, “Is this the type of behavior I would tolerate in someone I was married to or who worked with me or that I called my best friend? Your job as a parent is to help your teen socialize and that means it is your job to help them improve behaviors that will ostracize them.

When you see behavior in your teen that you find personally offensive or less than admirable, it is you your teen trusts to change that behavior before they reap the social consequences of that behavior. Those social consequences can include being bullied, ignored, not being included in social settings even if they aren’t treated badly and not being able to achieve certain social milestones because they simply cannot socialize well with others. The social milestones such as learning how to read body language or sarcasm are important skills that allow your teen as an adult to know when they are being accepted or not.

Your teen is certainly responsible for their own behavior as they become an adult, but along the way, they need you to help guide and nurture positive social behaviors that will help them work well with others and not have them perceived as entitled, selfish or greedy, three behaviors that are not conducive to being around others. Can you imagine being a parent and having these qualities? What kind of family would that be?