As they say in the South, “What is that thang you do?” What is your pattern? How do you typically deal with stress? Do you even know what your own chosen coping mechanisms are? If you do, are they working? Learning of our own particular patterns and coping mechanisms, whether effective or ineffective, is the first step in learning how to manage stress. After that, there is the concerted and focused effort we use to begin to treat the stress itself, rather than the external circumstances, as the center of our focused effort. Too often we think that in order to eliminate stress, we must change the circumstances. But that is not true, for stress is an inside job, as is stress management.