Your teen has so many fears and worries. They are worried they won’t have friends, they won’t live up to your standards and disappoint you, they won’t meet their own goals, they won’t be somebody, anybody. They are worried they won’t be good enough.

But I think I’m still trying  figure this crap out
Thought I had it mapped out but I guess I didn’t
This f**king black cloud’s still follows me around
But it’s time to exorcise these demons
These motherf**kers are doing jumping jacks now!

Your teen is learning pieces at a time how to be an adult: Relationships, financial concerns, personal concerns, physical concerns, and moral concerns all come to them a piece at a time like a puzzle that is formed one piece at a time. They are unable to see the big picture until they have enough pieces. If they have had a challenging home life or school life these pieces can be harder to come by. This can create doubt and more fear.

And I just can’t keep living this way
So starting today, I’m breaking out of this cage
I’m standing up, Imma face my demons
I’m manning up, Imma hold my ground
I’ve had enough, now I’m so fed up
Time to put my life back together right now

Sooner or later your teen will hopefully become bigger than their fear. They will want to overcome and move on more than remain stationary, paralyzed by their fear. They will take a risk and apply to that school, go out for that team, or select that major. They will have the courage to consider their true passion and go for it at any cost in the hopes of finding their happiness instead of letting anything about their history or circumstance hold them back, even if that person is you.
Cause the way I feel, I’m strong enough to go to the club
Or the corner pub and lift the whole liquor counter up
Cause I’m raising the bar, I shoot for the moon
But I’m too busy gazing at stars, I feel amazing and

I’m not afraid to take a stand
Everybody come take my hand
We’ll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you’re not alone
Holla if you feel like you’ve been down the same road

When teens think more about what they are afraid to do than what they can do they are unmotivated to try anything for fear they will fail. Ultimately they need to learn to take a chance. They learn like Eminem must have in order to write this song to be unafraid of taking a stand for themselves, for their happiness despite the ups and downs. And although Eminem might not be the mentor you envisioned for your teen the thought that he represents someone or something that can help them along is awfully powerful. It gives teens the thought they aren’t alone in their fear and that there is hope. With hope, there is courage. With courage, there is less fear and then there is action. Now that’s amazing!