I abhor rumors and gossip. They’re petty, destructive, and hateful. Yet, truth-be-told, I have engaged in gossip  from time-to-time. I’m not proud of it, just honest. I could try to justify it by saying that I’ve only done so out of concern for others. Sometimes the sharing of information about another person can genuinely be an act of concern. One may do so to gain insight into their behaviors in order to offer them assistance

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A sharp, young officer arrives to his first assignment and as is the case in Army Aviation, he becomes the platoon leader for a unit that operates up to five helicopters and crews. In flight school, he excelled and demonstrated all of the technical competence expected for a new aviator.  After a couple of months of his arrival, his unit goes on a training exercise and he is given his first taste of leading his

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Did you know: That having Drive and Determination to overcome obstacles and challenges can be learned! Many believe that only a certain persona can overcome challenges in life.  Only certain persona can build successful businesses or have great relationships.  It’s just not so!  Developing mental and emotional muscles that are used to build courage and fearlessness takes daily, focused work. You can have Drive and Determination to overcome and achieve what you desire! The key

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They all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women’s shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors while also being the first to initiate the next juicy scandal. Any one of them could have had a successful career as a reporter for the

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Forgiveness: so many misconceptions and misunderstandings; so many who believe forgiveness is reserved for a chosen few or must be preceded with an apology. Still others feel at times that it is impossible or worse, that there are those not deserving of its graces. And so they suffer…all of them, when healing is clearly within their reach. Please take a moment and reflect on a letter from the Father expressing the importance and necessity of

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Is your Life Ambition to be GM of the Year? Great Sports Teams have always had great General Managers. Is your life ambition to be GM of the year? The metaphor of a sports team “GM” really is about the people who build teams from the ground up. The sometimes need to retool teams on a budget. Most of the time though they are handed a team and they have to make it work with

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Servant Leadership Training – No Such Thing as Equal Treatment   One of my favorite leadership books is a follow-on to the One Minute Manager, where Ken Blanchard, along with Patricia and Drea Zigarmi address situational leadership in Leadership and the One Minute Manager. A servant leader understands that every one of us has a unique set of strengths and weaknesses; sometimes, we need more direction, other times, less.  Situational leadership recognizes the different abilities an

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How to prepare your mind for competition and success When it comes to getting ready for competition, your mental preparation means more than you might realize. I often call this the “game within the game.” If you have been a competitive athlete at all in your life, you can probably recall a time when your mental state caused you to perform better or worse. What you might not realize, however, is that you can achieve peak performance

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Management tells the workforce that change is important. They invest millions in new equipment and systems – that’s change for the infrastructure. They send people to training for new equipment and systems – that’s change for the people involved. They send the management team to leadership training and watch for different behaviors, but sometimes management interaction doesn’t change like management hoped. Why not? Often management teams expect change but do not give themselves permission to

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“I’m a victim of domestic violence.” That’s one phrase you’ll never hear emanating from my mouth. Even though I spent three years engaged to marry someone who verbally and physically abused me, I never once entertained the thought of myself as a victim. Perhaps it’s because I define a victim as one without power. True, in some circumstances we are unprepared or momentarily ill-equipped to protect ourselves from the unexpected disturbances life presents us. Driving

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