I see clients ever week who ask me to teach them how to control their tempers. "I'm not the person to help you with that. Controlling anger can be hazardous to your health and to the safety of those around you." Most often, they stare at me in disbelief. "Controlling anger takes an enormous amount of mental and physical energy. Due to the nature and sheer force of anger, it can easily overpower you at

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Leaders are often encouraged to “think outside the box.”  Leaders often encourage others to “think outside the box.”  Though thinking outside the box has value and calls for innovation and non- traditional ways, I suggest that strong leaders can be creative inside the box.  This article challenges leaders to consider something different when it comes to being creative. Common thinking suggests that great creativity comes when one has no restrictions upon his or her ability

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Fewer and fewer people coming into the workforce do so having been brought up with any set of value system in place. With these missing values, also comes the absence of business etiquette. Teach organizational values, believe in them, and back them up. Regularly discuss your team’s/organization’s values. This should be a part of your everyday conversation and clearly defines where you are going as a team/organization. Discuss each person’s role on the team –

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  "So when you are listening to somebody, completely, attentively, then you are listening not only to the words, but also to the feeling of what is being conveyed to the whole of it, not part of it."                                                                                                                                Jiddu Krishnamurti Did you experience selective hearing in your household? I did. My mother and father both practiced it, which led to fighting which could have been avoided if they would have taken the time to hear

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  NEW DIRECTIONS IN LEADERSHIP New Directions Leader As Visionary   “The most important questions in life can never be answered by anyone except oneself."  – John Fowles, The Magus   In the short statement below, Albert Einstein asks, "Is the universe a friendly place?" This is especially pertinent for those of us who aspire to become New Directions Leaders. Because how we interpret and respond to Einstein’s question will fundamentally influence our choices and actions

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We've all found ourselves in situations where we feel as though we're caught between a rock and a hard place. Faced with making a necessary decision, our choices are less than favorable and all options have potentially serious consequences. Your best friend confides that she's having an affair and begs you not to tell  her husband. But her husband is your brother-in-law. Your two best friends have a falling out and each insists that you

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Mental Side of Sport and Business This is constant:  The Mental side of sports is always more important than the Physical.  Hall of Fame Baseball Player and Coach Yogi Berra is often misquoted with the line that 90 percent of sport in mental and the other fifty percent is physical.  The Berra-ism while humorous seems to make light of the importance of the psychological skills sets important to performance. In an article in the  Wall

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What prevents people from saying what they feel needs to be said is the fear of how the other person will react. Are you one of the people who allow other people to challenge what you say? Do others feel comfortable questioning you, making suggestions, or offering a separate way of seeing things? Or are they afraid you will get defensive, act irrational, be hurt, or become vindictive? When I was a collegiate basketball coach,

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Sherlock Holmes said, "Eliminate all other factors, and the one which remains must be the truth."  Navigating the course of leadership is often not easy.  We need all the help we can from any source we can get it.  Therefore, it is important that we learn to look for clues that will lead us to the proper people and decisions that enable us to fulfill our mission and vision. Bob Beaudine says, "Sherlock Holmes became

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    NEW DIRECTIONS IN LEADERSHIP     New Directions Leader As Beginner    “But the Hebrew word, the word timshel—‘Thou mayest’— that gives a choice. It might be the most important word in the world. That says the way is open. That throws it right back on a man. For if ‘Thou mayest’—it is also true that ‘Thou mayest not.”   ? John Steinbeck, East of Eden      How do we as “New Directions

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