Have you had times at work when everything is going reasonably well, you’re in a good mood, and that one co-worker comes in spreading their negativity darkening your day? Most of us have been there.  The natural tendency is to try to avoid that person, but it’s not easy, especially if they are seated close to you in the workplace. So what do you do? You can try to resist them, or confront them.  However, this only creates more friction.  If a person is negative, you’re not going to change them.  However, you can change your reaction to them. Think

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A client of mine, Hui Zhong, called me yesterday somewhat distressed. She is in product management as an information analyzer for an international corporation headquartered in Silicon Valley, CA. A few months ago Hui Zhong, pronounced hoy-zong, began reading a book by Robin Sharma – The Leader Who Had No Title. She began practicing some of the exercises, which allowed her to stretch and expand her comfort zone to include more of her authentic leadership style. The dilemma though, is that as she exercises and stretches to expand her repertoire, she’s experiencing growing pains that bring with them discomfort, uncertainty,

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Being popular is actually over-rated. Many people confuse it with leadership. They are not the same. Popularity is about being liked whereas leadership is about being respected.  Mr. Popular focuses on his/her needs whereas the leader is consumed with meeting group goals and objectives. It is a waste of time trying to be Mr./Ms. Popular if you have a desire to be a change agent. I should know since I was Mr. Popular in college.  The person doing keg stands and jello shots in the back of the frat house is not the person you will follow when it is time to accomplish

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TOOL KIT: R.O.P.E.S.:  A must have simple tool for being Proactive It’s easy to be reactive when something happens at work.   Dr. Covey,  author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has as the first Habit:  BE PROACTIVE. He asserts that being proactive “means more than merely taking initiative.  It means that as human beings, we are responsible for our own lives. “ Think about this: “When you choose your actions you choose your consequences!  Imagine if every consequence, positive or negative, that we experience is a direct result of actions we choose. QUOTE: “How people treat you is their karma;

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Dysfunctional is a matter of interpretation, isn’t it? What is dysfunctional, how do we know if we and our business are dysfunctional and what do we do about it? Dysfunctional families breed individuals who to some degree are dysfunctional, and without a doubt they bring that dysfunction with them into everything they create; they build friendships, careers, empires around their dysfunction and attract others into their web. At some point, though, as we know with most empires, they all come crashing down, because the limitations that come with their dysfunction will inevitably destroy what they’ve created. Dysfunction essentially means something

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The definition of adaption: ” To change, adjust or conform to suit a new or different purpose.” Adapting for many people can be difficult because they don’t want to change.   However, the only thing that stays the same in the world are changes, so adapting is necessary for survival not only in business, but also in everyday life.  Technology today is rapidly changing our world. To adapt, is a crucial principle in sports for a team to win, just like in the workforce for a business to survive and thrive.   Pro athletes must adapt to: new players on their team new environment playing

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Presence: It seems like a no brainer; aren’t we always present wherever we go? Actually, it’s rare that we are present, in the moment, with our full attention on the individual, the group or task in front of us. Opportunities to have distractions pop up and take our attention away from what we are intending to be attending to. Cell phones, emails, texts, phones, people passing by our office or cubicle – these are the some of the external distractions; what about the thoughts, emotions and body sensations that also pull us off course; the emotions, stress, anger and fatigue;

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Political Correctness

Posted by Donald Wyant on January 01, 2000
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Category : Blog, Boundries, Communication

    I have been wanting to say something for a long time. To be sure what I want to say has validity, I have spent many months thinking about and researching my thoughts. I want to be extremely sure what I have say is correct.   I have reached the point that I believe what I want to say is correct and valid. However, I am not going to say it or put it on paper. I know I’m guaranteed free speech by the First Amendment of our great United States Constitution. Over the last half of my life

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I woke up from a dream this morning that made me question: “Really?” It was only the last few seconds of the dream that seemed so profound. It was a children’s choir – all boys, and they were singing a Christmas song. The only lyric I heard was:  “Gift me with my enemies and my ministers.” This is a pretty profound phrase, especially for a group of youngsters to be singing as a Christmas song. My Enemies My enemies infuse me with intense emotions – rage, hatred, vile condemnation and contempt. Judgments are automatic, so much so I don’t even

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I deny aspects of me that I know to be true – those dark shadowy aspects that if people were to find out about – well, it could mean rejection, humiliation and annihilation. It’s best that I pretend they don’t exist. On the other hand I have a knowing of certain things to be true, yet I deny myself these knowings too. I live in doubt and uncertainty as strategies that diminish my potential power in the world, diminish my light and visibility. In past lives, I’ve probably been murdered or tortured for standing out beyond the norm. “Won’t do

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