LEADERSHIP IN BUSINESS   The Business Leader As Communicator   “Inhabiting the full body, the long body, as many North American Native traditions say, with the voice, may be one of the great soul challenges of adult life.” – David Whyte, The Heart Aroused   In the film, “The King’s Speech,” in a moment of exasperation, the king, who has a speech impediment, says to his speech therapist: “Listen to me!” And the therapist

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The Kentucky Derby Championship series is underway and the hopes of many owners, trainers and jockeys are pointed toward Churchill Downs on the first Saturday in May.  Living over half of my life between Lexington and Louisville I could not escape all the talk and action that leads to the Derby.  Though I am not a gambler, I do enjoy the human interest stories and the drama that unfolds before the horses answer the call

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In this post we’re going to begin taking steps right here and right now to improve every aspect of our life.  I have to emphasize that the keywords are here and now. In my last few posts I discussed how, at times, we just seem to be going through the motions of life by robotically performing our daily task and functions.  It’s as if we’re functioning with a sense of impending doom hanging over our

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The Tucson Gem and Mineral Show is the largest of its kind in the world. A few years ago, I attended the show and found a ring with a 22 carat pear-shaped prasiolite (green quartz). I bought the ring from a jeweler in North Carolina, who took it back with him to be sized. It would be mailed later. A few weeks passed and the ring arrived. I opened it to find that the stone

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Everybody gets angry, even me. Professionally, I've been helping people understand and reduce their anger for twenty years. And in all honesty, I do practice what I preach. I experience far less anger and frustration than I did when I was younger, perhaps some of which is due to age. People often tend to mellow as they get older. They have a different perspective on life. Things that in younger years created great angst no

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  BLACK BELT LEADERSHIP    Black Belt Leader As Martial Artist: Part Five   “The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.”  ? Steve Hall   In Aikido, the term “ma-ai” refers to the distance or “spacing” between two or more people. This can be a physical, psychological, or psychic distance. One of the first things I notice when I work with a company or an

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WHAT IS YOUR WALL OF RESISTANCE? When was the last time you almost quit something? How many times have you thrown your hands up into the air thinking that it was too hard and walked away from something you really wanted? Most of us bounce along in life pretty good until we hit an obstacle, a wall of resistance that feels too tall, too wide or too strong. When this happens, there are two options.

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I hate sarcasm. It's rude, hurtful, and offensive. Yet I have met many people who insist that it is humorous. "Sarcasm can be funny, " my friend John told me. "I beg to differ", I replied. "There is nothing funny about saying something hurtful to another person." "Yes, but…", he continued, "you can make fun of them and as long as it's done in good taste it's not insulting." We debated the issue for a

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What prevents people from saying what they feel needs to be said is the fear of how the other person will react. Are you one of the people who allow other people to challenge what you say? Do others feel comfortable questioning you, making suggestions, or offering a separate way of seeing things? Or are they afraid you will get defensive, act irrational, be hurt, or become vindictive? When I was a collegiate basketball coach,

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  LEADERSHIP IN BUSINESS     Business Leader As Communicator: Part Two    “Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole person.”  ? Maya Angelou   Even as leaders, choosing to speak up at work can be risky, especially if our work environment does not outwardly support such behavior. Yet regardless what our current situation may be, there are times

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