The man at the hardware store told me all I needed to install the window well covers were the proper size screws, proper size bit and a drill. So, I bought the covers, a couple of dozen screws and a bit. When I arrived at home I retrieved my electric hand drill and went to work. I drilled and drilled with no success. I called my friend Roger who knows about such things and upon his arrival he determined that what I needed was a hammer drill. My problem was that I did not have the
I enjoy a good robust debate. I find it can be very stimulating and present an opportunity for me to learn something new. In every facet of life, we encounter individuals with whom we have disagreements. Recently, a woman in her forties came into my office seeking suggestions as to how she could best deal with her soon-to-be ex husband. “There’s a ton of stuff we have to work out such as dividing up our assets, child support, visitation, and such. Every time we talk it ends up in a fight. I just can’t take it
How do you become an effective communicator? Have you worked on your ability to effectively listen to somebody else? Maybe you’ve heard that you should ask questions, keep eye contact, refrain from using “you did” statements, or clarify what you heard. All of these are correct, but how do you do these things? Are you listening with judgment, your personal story or do you have the ability to listen from the position of trying to understand? This means you are not trying to advise, share your experiences or sympathize. When you listen with the intent to understand, you are providing
We can overcome most workplace stress. Changing up a few practices at work including taking “breaks” helps to reduce stress and recharge creativity, focus and productivity.
The following tips will help to create mindfulness at work which will reduce stress, according to the research. These strategies are applicable to corporate employees and small business owners as well as home based entrepreneurs:
- Become intentionally aware of what is happening in the moment without judgment. See things as they are. Do not take negative feedback or
Taking action to capture potential improvements is what change is all about. For the past 100 years, we have used a process-focused approach to do that with limited success. Some companies report significant improvements in production or cost but how many of those improvements are sustained? Other companies experience shortfalls in the expected returns, both for profit and culture change. Again, process changes are made but the results just don’t materialize.
Logic tells me that there must be barriers preventing our actions from having the impact that they should have on performance and culture and that those barriers reside
In my last post titled: “Activate Your Awareness”, I provided a short exercise with the purpose of helping us to understand that we’re not our thoughts. The point was that our intellectual nature (or mind) consists of many aspects vying for control. Each of these aspects (our conscious and subconscious mind, our will, desires and emotions) as well as other forces, factors and issues submit thoughts to our mind. The mere fact that we’re aware of the different thoughts going through our mind provides us the opportunity to take charge of our lives.
One of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! “Aside from that, he’s perfect.” she exclaimed. “But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he’s not doing anything wrong and then accuses me of nagging! Can you believe it? If I was doing something that bothered him, I’d stop because I love him. Why won’t he do that for me?” Oh goodness,
BLACK BELT LEADERSHIP
Black Belt Leader As Martial Artist: Part Four
“Would you rather be right or happy?”
How do you improve your listening skills? The first thing you need to do is become aware of how you listen or how you don’t listen. When you are involved in a conversation, are you dedicated to hearing what the other person is saying? The first step is to give your full attention to who is speaking, stop whatever you are doing, and eliminate any distractions such as reading, texting or working on the computer. Once you have given your full attention to the speaker, put the speaker at ease by using body language cues. Relax your body. Keep your