“I just don’t want you to make the same mistakes I made.” This is the eternal wish of a parent with regrets. Don’t let my child end up as I did, make the same mistakes I did, do as I did, just do better than I did. The problem with this type of warning is that it only serves to tell them what not to do and does nothing to help them learn from what you did almost dooming them to repeat the exact same mistake. This type of
Your teen’s break-up from their first sexual experience is going to be very hard. Now break-ups are hard of course, but this will hold a unique place in their heart since they shared something special with this person they thought maybe they would love forever. Irrespective of your position on teen sexual activity, your teen will do better if you can help them get through this heart break. You will also be in a much better position to get help if they make the transition to depression or become suicidal.
“I love that age!” A second time Mom said discussing her 3-year-old while they waited for their coffee. “You know, they’re so playful and fun and they listen to everything you say.” They listen to everything you say. This was a movie, wasn’t it called Stepford Wives? Often people comment on how certain ages of growing up are good or bad for them. Of course, they are absolutely entitled to their opinion. However, you have to wonder when someone prefers a stage of development that is characterized by your child worshiping you as a parent and having little or no
“Nothing personal” is a familiar phrase in family owned businesses. The intent is clear: run the family business like a business, not a family. So often, however, family business decisions do become personal and family members end up hurt or angry. The danger point lies not so much in the actual decisions but in the decision making process. Often the decision is sound but the process is flawed. One example is that of “undivided” land and mineral rights. If the family business includes assets of land or mineral rights with clear title, the business is free to sell the asset.
When your attitude shifts, your life follows suit. Everyone reaches that magic “decision time.” You know the time. You look at your life or a situation and determine “that’s enough; something is going to change NOW.” A firm decision results in an attitude shift. Your attitude will get you everywhere. The relief associated with a major attitude shift is phenomenal. The trauma and stress are all previous to the decision. Once the decision is made, the attitude turns positive and progressive. The stress comes from the “should I” or “shouldn’t I” dilemma. Stop shoulding all over yourself and get with
Your attitude will get you everywhere. It is your decision where you choose to go. That’s right. A positive attitude will take you to heights you have only dreamed possible. A negative attitude will plunge you to depths you do not even wish to fathom. Several years ago I was involved in a marketing system in which leads filtered in from numerous individuals. Even though each person had an individual web site and the leads were theoretically exclusive to that one individual, mysteriously the lead would come in to one person and another individual would receive the sale. After a
How much do you enjoy being around grumpy, complaining negative people? They may provide great material for a comedy routine but not for increasing morale, productivity or profit. Employees generally tend toward one of three categories: white knights, milk toast, red ants. White knights go above and beyond their job description. They are always seeking ways to make the job and the company more productive, more profitable and more enjoyable. They generally come in early and probably stay late. Once they complete all of their tasks, they offer to assist others in order to meet all of the desired deadlines.
Families in Grief Ours is not a grieving culture, even though on Memorial Day we observe a day of remembrance for all those men and women who died in the military service of their country. The World Wars, Korea, Vietnam and now two wars that have dragged on for years: how many sons and daughters will families give in defense of freedom? For those who have not experienced Arlington Cemetery or the Vietnam Wall firsthand the enormity of these losses cannot be adequately described in words. Grief is not easily discerned. It’s not something we see with our eyes or
I have a lot of fond memories of really good food, and two of my greatest involve strawberries. The first came one spring day in Louisiana when my grandparents’ neighbor brought over a fresh strawberry pie. Unforgettable! I had always loved strawberries, and my mom would occasionally make strawberry shortcake but nothing seemed to come close to the pie I had that day. The second event happened on a chance stroll through a small village in France, about an hour north of Bordeaux. I happened upon a little roadside stand where a small elderly woman was selling her fresh strawberries.