Black Belt Leader as Team Builder: Part One


“Take a nap every afternoon.” Robert Fulgrum, author of All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten


Who is the most important person in your life? 


The answer: You are.


This may sound heretical to some, but it’s not really. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t mean you’re better than or more valuable than anyone else. It simply means…well, let me give you an example.


When you fly on an airplane prior to take off, the flight attendants run through the safety procedures. One of them has to do with the loss of cabin pressure. What do the flight attendants recommend, especially if you are traveling with children or an elderly person? “In the event of a sudden loss of cabin pressure,” they say, “oxygen masks will automatically descend from the ceiling. Grab the mask, and pull it over your face.” Once your mask is securely fastened, you can attend to those you’re traveling with who might need your assistance.


So this can be the same for all of our relationships.


Because by tending to our own needs first, we can then be of support to others. In other words, the more our “tank” is full, the more we have to offer. The less there is, the less we have to give.  


As “Black Belt Leaders in the Making,” I suggest that you take care of yourself first by being aware of what you’re feeling as best you can in every moment; know what you want, know what you don’t want; tend to your needs whatever they may be – big or small; speak up when you feel the urge. Ask for what you want. Don’t let your feelings fester; be mindful of what your limits are – energetically, emotionally, and physically – and don’t exceed them.