BLACK BELT LEADERSHIP

Black Belt Leader As Beginner: Part Fourteen                                        

“The god of Victory is said to be one-handed, but Peace gives victory to both sides.” 

 Ralph Waldo Emerson

Black Belt Leaders appreciate conflict as a natural part of life. When conflict arises, it’s not an aberration or proof that something is wrong; just the opposite. Let’s take a moment to consider how often in our daily life are we caught between two opposing ideas Whether these two contrasting points of view are internal arguments, or they are with a friend, a spouse, or a co-worker. I mean, it happens frequently, doesn’t it? Thank goodness that it does. Why do I say that? Because the content of conflict; whatever we’re in conflict about; can act, if we’re open to it, as a timely “tonic” or specific remedy to help us personally and professionally  to move forward when things (whether we are aware of it or not) start to stagnant.

But wait, you say, you make conflict sound so “positive,” Robert. It doesn’t feel good to me. It feels bad. And I say, it’s true. Being in conflict can be painful and even frightening. And here’s the reason why: most of us have not experienced conflict in its optimal form. We are mostly familiar with it as part of a negative pattern, where the conflict is ongoing, a repeat of the same, and there is no peaceful resolution. A very unpleasant result.   

In its optimal form, though, conflict’s value is indisputable: it is the spark that ignites the fires of creation in the world; it initiates the process of change. As a consequence of conflict, the opportunity is there for us to grow and establish a new balance in our lives.